Without doubt, one item that is central in the FemDom/malesub active play - is the male sex organ. Those hard cocks, soft cocks, little dicks and bull cocks, those low hanging balls or shriveled up nut sacs – all opens a world of possibilities for fun play, psychological as well as physical and usually both. 

There’s an old saying, “When you have him by his balls, his heart and mind will follow.” Well, nothing is more true in an erotic power exchange context

There is a widely spread legend that not only the penis erects, but that the male testicles (balls) will become heavier as they “fill” with semen. That is not true, at least not in the literal sense of the word. However, to the man himself it often indeed feels like that. That is a result of the effects of skin stretching. Skin covers all parts of the male genitals. The more this skin is stretched the more sensitive it becomes, as nerve endings are forced closer to the surface; thus the skin is more sensitive on an erect penis than on a flaccid one. The skin of the scrotal sac is thicker and is capable of great stretching and becomes even more sensitive when stretched. That is when the man becomes aware of the weight of his balls, hence they suddenly feel heavier.

The skin covering the head of the cock is very thin, tightly attached to the underlying tissues, and is extremely sensitive. It is important to be aware of the differences in sensitivity between a flaccid and an erect penis. Almost every action during active play – and of course the “things” happening in the mind – will cause the penis to swell and become increasingly sensitive.

Hence what may be not painful in the beginning may become very painful (or intense) as play progresses.

Hence, when it comes to CBT, the trick is to downgrade your impulses instead of upgrading.

The penis will “upgrade” whatever it is you are doing all by itself. The experienced FemDom will be looking for exactly that – let the penis (and the mind) do the work for you.