Just wow!

Hmmmm…. shoes….. I think I should do some shoe shopping……. Stopped by a small store yesterday and saw this delicious pair of red heels. I was beginning to drool over them, when in my periphal vision, this awesome pair of 4″ black heels caught my eye. Open toe with black rhinestones encircling the ankle straps. Yes, is great to be back in the city!!!!!!!!

Anal worship, pussy worship or even a back massage can be an unrewarding, unmemorable experience for ME, when it is clear that the slut is totally self indulgent or won’t leave ME alone about it.

Hell, even orgasms can get old when a slut won’t shut up about it and just wants to keep giving them.

Being in the honor of MY presence, is about MY pleasure, on MY terms.

So you’ve stated - you get off on anal worship or pussy worship or foot worship, but you don’t let it go, do you?  As a matter of fact, you make it so clear that it shows me, Mistress Chianti, you have a one-track mind and you think it’s all about you.

I have sessioned with sluts that were like this with pussy worship.  They could not understand why on earth I would not be over the moon to be with a guy that had a one-track-pussy-mind. The truth is, it was so much about “him” all the time that he made it one sided – his side.  If I were not in the mood to have him go down on me, he’d pout and be in a bad mood. I mean come on, seriously, how selfish is that?

I will also add, the submissive male who has been the most “focused (for his own benefit)” on an act of worship, whether it be foot massages or oral service, is usually not as good as he thinks he is.

Those that submit for my pleasure, even when precise instructions are needed – are worth their weight in gold!!!  

How NOT to write your first or ANY letter to Me~!

“Dear Mistress.

Do me, do me, do this to me, do that to me, do this other thing to me, wear these clothes while you are doing it, force me to do these other things, and by the way I expect some kinky sex acts. Here is a picture of my big hard cock for Your pleasure. 

I’ve only sent it to 6,342 women, so it should make you feel really special that I’m sending it to you too.  I won’t pay you money because pros are so selfish and demanding.   You have to do all this stuff to me just because You like it, and if you don’t, then obviously you are not a Real Dominant!”

This article was written by and is the property of Mistress Chianti 

All right, so you have been to a few events, you’ve attended many public functions. You have seen the toys, witnessed the scenes that electrify a room and have a good grasp on the basics – yet you have never went that next step, and experienced a scene first hand, or maybe it has been a long time because you believe scenes are only for “hooked up” couples.

In the shadows of your mind, you have waltzed to a flogger, for more than likely, you have held it, caressed it, inhaled the rich leather aroma deep into your lungs. You have jumped in observation as a cane lands its burning kiss against naked flesh. In witnessing, you feel the fire within you to dance with longing euphoria.

No, you do not want to just experience a sensation, you want – or better yet, need – a scene. So how does a submissive approach a Dominant and ask for such a thing? First off - this is not a high school dance!Sitting on the sidelines of a play space, waiting to be asked by a respected Dominant if you would like to scene, probably isn’t going to happen. As a single or available submissive, you need to be the one doing the asking. Timing is everything and my advice is not to wait until the last minute. There is nothing wrong or disrespectful in contacting a Dominant you would like to scene with, even several days before a scheduled event. If both parties are in agreement, an experienced Dominant will want time to talk to you about certain limits, their safe word code, the goals desired for both sides of the scene, etc.Some Dominants only scene with their own partners, and that should be respected, but if you are active within a certain group, more than likely you will have a good idea which Dominants extend such courtesies and which ones do not – and if you have absolutely no idea – ask anyways.Know what it is you really want to experience – and ask accordingly. If you want to experience a scene, do not prelude it with “I would like to see what xxx feels like.” More than likely – you will walk away knowing exactly what xxx feels like – but will not have experienced a “scene.” This is not the time to be bashful and shy - smile and ask to fly.

This is neither rocket science, nor all that difficult. So remember.1. Ask.

2. If the time you have asked for cannot be accommodated – don’t let it keep you from asking again for a future time.

3. Know what it is you would like to experience.

4. Negotiate.

5. Enjoy.

This article was written by and is the property of Mistress Chianti 

I was reading through a BDSM forum last night and the topic was whether or not subspace intereferes or bores the Dominant.  My thoughts.